Help with profiles

[IceQueen]

The second thing I can't figure out on our board is the profiles.
We want to change it a little. Instead of asking if they are a male or female, we want to add "couple" to the list, have 2 separate birthday listings on the calendar and show a male and a female icon.
We have tried to find the answer on here but to no avail.
BTW, I have no clue how to do HTML, so I think I might be asking a lot... sorry.
Someone throw a life ring, my brain is swimming.