That's not a solution, what OP is asking is handling the bounce emails in SMF which is not possible. Other forum scripts are handling bounce emails in the core by setting members to different membergroups or setting them as bounced/inactive members so they won't receive any mail until they change their email address. Also many newsletter scripts are acting this way.
I also have the same problem in SMF, I send my emails through Amazon SES, and if a mail is bounced I get noticed by email, so manually I can delete or decide what to do with that member. I usually send a couple of newsletters/year and every time I do it I have to spent some time by checking the mails and delete members. If you have a lot of members that will require a lot of time.
If somebody have other or better solutions let me know, I'm also interested.